I need to forgive for the sake of my own peace of mind, even if the other never asks to be forgiven. It is better to let go of the resentment and let it heal than to bear it for months or perhaps years like an open sore. Nursing a grudge does more harm to the one who refuses to forgive than it does to the one who caused the injury but may have forgotten it long ago. I can forgive in my heart even if I do not say it in so many words. By forgiving I become a healing, life-giving presence to others . . .
Charles Cummings, Monastic Practices, 2nd ed. (Collegeville, MN: Liturgical Press, 2015), p. 180. ISBN: 978-0-87907-484-5.